“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
– Frederick Keonig
When an archeologist discovers a buried artifact, she doesn’t immediately rip it out of the ground to study it. She knows that it is important to first observe it in situ—in the place where she found it. She knows there’s likely to be more information there. I think the same must happen with emotions. The act of stopping to look at them in situ—where they are and where they’ve come from—is the way to discover many answers. Some time ago I started looking in situ at where some of my emotional and creative walls stood. The places where I felt locked out of myself. It’s not a pleasant place sometimes, but it is a very real place. A place that we tend to ignore or hide with all the fluff we allow into our contemporary lives.
The biggest stumbling block that I’ve had to work very hard to navigate is my inner voice and the stories I let it tell me. Turning inward toward the root of my worries, I have had to scrutinize, in situ, the person I have been, the person I am, and the person I want to be – and to change the inner stories that I tell myself. What I’ve found is that it’s easy to spend a lot of time and energy worrying about what you don’t have, rather than finding joy in what you do have.
I know and acknowledge that I am a truly blessed person, but I sometimes don’t do the best job of showing it. I would like to turn up the heat a bit and make my gratitude public. It is not an original idea, but I saw it and liked it. By posting something for which I’m grateful, I think I can continue to better my ability to stay in touch with the present. I intend to use gratitude as a direct tool and a practice to bring creativity, productivity and joy into my life. I hope you too are able to move “in situ” into your life and bloom where you’re planted. Heaven knows I’m trying.
My first gratitude post is to my administrative staff. Starting with Christina, the mother of us all, who has been with me for over ten years. Matthew, eight years. Jeremy, six. Timothy and Lisette, four. Nick, three. Krys, two. And most recently, we are pleased to be welcoming Bart as part of our team and our family. I have tasked them all with bringing the nearly impossible to life, often in less than a New York Minute, and always with the best customer service in our industry (so I’ve been told—by clients and event professionals, alike). My team is my foundation and I hope I tell them that enough. It feels a bit obvious making them my first post. Maybe it is. But we often forget our gratitude for the obvious. I consider myself blessed to have this group of people in my life.